I have been learning about different types of personalities and the one that seems to stand out is the Vampire Narcissist. This is the person who comes into a room demanding other's attention, or as we say holding court when they are present in groups. People in the room have no choice but to give all their attention to that one person as they command the room.
A vampire personality is a person who sucks the energy and life essences out of others. Most people don't know that they are being drained only later when they feel extremely tired after the encounter. The vampire may, or may not be aware that they are draining others. The Narcissist is the personality in the room which finds ways to point the conversations, or looks for any way to bring attention to themselves. They are not known for allowing others in the room to speak nor do they care to hear what others have to say. They are in the own moment which is about them. Now combine the two personalities and you have the Vampire Narcissist.
What I find interesting about this personality is that they are often accompanied by another personality that is codependent in nature which is willing to feed their time and energy to the Vampire Narcissist. You may recognize this personality as the Martyr. The Martyr will always take up for, or fight the battles for the VN. Their whole world is dedicated in some way, or from revolving around the VN. The odd part of this relationship is that the Vampire Narcissist doesn't cherish, or appreciate the extra attention as they already feel entitled to it. This only perpetuates the vicious cycle of this relationship and lord help anyone who stumbles accidentally into this web.
The image that comes to mind is the Bugs Bunny cartoon of the big bulldog and the little dog who is infatuated with his hero. I have to admit that I find this combination of personalities intriguing to watch as I have run up against it many times in my life. Also when I am able to identify this combination I tend to take a wide birth only to watch from a far when it shows up. Again this is an experience that you want to proceed with extreme caution understanding that what is unfolding in front of you is about their relationship. The trick is not to get caught up in it.
If you want to learn more about these types of personalities then let me recommend Judith Orloff M.D. She has free short videos on her website and books about different personalities that you can identify.
http://www.drjudithorloff.com/free-video.htm
A vampire personality is a person who sucks the energy and life essences out of others. Most people don't know that they are being drained only later when they feel extremely tired after the encounter. The vampire may, or may not be aware that they are draining others. The Narcissist is the personality in the room which finds ways to point the conversations, or looks for any way to bring attention to themselves. They are not known for allowing others in the room to speak nor do they care to hear what others have to say. They are in the own moment which is about them. Now combine the two personalities and you have the Vampire Narcissist.What I find interesting about this personality is that they are often accompanied by another personality that is codependent in nature which is willing to feed their time and energy to the Vampire Narcissist. You may recognize this personality as the Martyr. The Martyr will always take up for, or fight the battles for the VN. Their whole world is dedicated in some way, or from revolving around the VN. The odd part of this relationship is that the Vampire Narcissist doesn't cherish, or appreciate the extra attention as they already feel entitled to it. This only perpetuates the vicious cycle of this relationship and lord help anyone who stumbles accidentally into this web.
The image that comes to mind is the Bugs Bunny cartoon of the big bulldog and the little dog who is infatuated with his hero. I have to admit that I find this combination of personalities intriguing to watch as I have run up against it many times in my life. Also when I am able to identify this combination I tend to take a wide birth only to watch from a far when it shows up. Again this is an experience that you want to proceed with extreme caution understanding that what is unfolding in front of you is about their relationship. The trick is not to get caught up in it.
If you want to learn more about these types of personalities then let me recommend Judith Orloff M.D. She has free short videos on her website and books about different personalities that you can identify.
http://www.drjudithorloff.com/free-video.htm
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