"Surviving the Holidays"

As we look back on the holiday season with our families we can count our many blessings and our time together. Then there is the other side of this which is merging the many different energy patterns from all of the family members during all the get-together sometimes making the being together a little uncomfortable. This is why I think that the movie studios continue making holiday family films about dysfunctional families gathering during this time of the year. If you are like me you may find yourself laughing at the movies of this sort as some of the situations seem to mirror some similar experiences.

 Personally I find that holiday situations with family are some of the greatest opportunities to really learn about one's personal power. It doesn't mean exerting more power over another but learning how one maneuvers through tough situations when they come up. In those instances if one is aware, it is important to allow others to be who they are while still being in control of one's own personal passions and actions. I am not saying to relinquish one's power but to be conscious while standing back in observing all sides of a situation before making a commitment to any particular outcome. By doing this, helps in making wiser choices then being consumed in an emotional commitment and then trying to take over a situation because of the fear of losing power. I find that by looking at the whole picture and the different outcomes can help in discovering better solutions in merging energy patterns together making life more compatible for everyone involved.  

Then there are those times that our well meaning may be taken out of perspective and of course it is always good to have another tool that can help in those situations. This is a healthy sense of humor which can be a great way to survive an intense situation that may pop up when you least expect it. Laughing or making a joke of it at the time may not be appropriate but allowing oneself to really see the humor in the a situation will help to ease some of the tension within one's own energy field. Often just by doing this opens up the energy fields breaking down some of the tension in the room even if the other person is not fully conscious of what is transpiring on an energetic level. It is in no way intended to manipulate others but to ease the energy so that the energy walls are not bumping up against each other causing friction. When the energy in the room settles down, it opens up a brand new slate for open communication to commence once again provided that the conversation doesn't intentionally lead down the same path. 

When analyzing family spats or upsets as we all merge together during the holidays, it seems to be more about miss-communication and the different ways that we are all hard-wired in our own nuclear families.  What I find that is helpful is not making a commitment to any one outcome but learning how to even step out of my own comfort zone and trying something new. It is after all only for a few days or even weeks that we all get to be together. As I learn about my own discomforts I noticed that others are also learning about themselves and how they also match the puzzle pieces as we all merge together as a whole.