A Fatal Attraction

I think what brings to the mind when we think of "Fatal Attraction" is the movie that coined that phrase. Having someone who is emotional unstable stalking someone who has no desire to be with that person seems to be what we all think of. But there is another type of fatal attraction that we might miss that plays a large part in the human experience.

This type of fatal attraction is apart of the lives for those who carry old wounds and emotional baggage from the past. Here is the deal, very few of us are even conscious that we carry it but go ask family and friends and they seem very aware of it.

Because people are often unaware that they carry this pain which attracts others in the some existence who in tern helps perpetuate the unconscious behavior. Then the relationship takes a spiraling down plunge as it attracts and infects others who come in contact with the dysfunctional behavior.

Have you ever heard of the expression that, "misery loves company"? Now take a relationship with the backgrounds of two different types of painful baggage and you will git a reaction. Either they will feed the needs of being miserable or there will be an explosion. These relationships will find ways to grow with its pain by anger, drama, gossip and fighting which if it gets out of hand can also lead to physical violence.

Relationships in this category include, marriage, family, business, churches, sports, friends, schools, PTA, and many other groups that people come in contact with each other. It is really apart of our society that we pretend that we don't see as it still affects so many in our culture.

I was once told by someone that, "people who are hurt will often hurt others". Why do I tell you this you ask? Because unless we become aware of our own baggage then we will attract or be attracted to situations and others who are semiotic in emotional pain and the cycle will continue.

If you have dark memories of your parents fighting and even if they made up, you have already witnessed as a small child this pain threshold in relationships that feeds on each other. If you become aware of someone you work with, who is always looking for high drama then again you are most likely witnessing another example of someone who searches relationships in need of feeding the pain they carry inside.

Please understand that many are addicted to this high drama and dysfunctional relationships as it fuels the hunger of the painful baggage that is carried by an individual. If you become aware of someone who is displaying this type of behavior then you need to remove or distance yourself form that relationship. Chances are high that, that person has no clue that they are doing that and if you see it in yourself, then you need to work on changing it so that you don't continue to bring pain to yourself and others...

Blessings, Ana