The Energy Exchange

Like the free world money exchange we also exchange energy as freely as we hand money to one another. The only difference is that we often don't see it as it is not as tangible as a dollar bill.

But like money we often find ourselves in great debt as we are not brought up to understand how to balance and handle our personal energy. I find it rather interesting that we don't teach our children how to handle energy in school but we also don't teach them how to handle money either.

So where does that leave us? In great debt. We find that often our personal relationships take up so much of our time and energy that we can be exhausted by the end or even the beginning of the day.

Personal freedom, is discovering and understanding that we do have this energy exchange going on all the time and anytime we are with someone. This is where we learn about ourselves and our own personal power. Understanding the exchange rate in energy terms changes the dynamics on how we manage our lives and care for others.

I remember a few years ago when I first became aware of this, as it had all became very apparent by working closely with the different personalities on the staff that I was apart of.

At the time I had made an acquaintance who was a Councilor and I mentioned that I could feel people's energy when I walked into a room. I had also discovered that I could physically move energy but was not really sure what it was all about. The commit that was made was that they were not sure what religion I was but some churches excepted that. I stopped in mid sentence as I realized that there was nothing else to say as the energy I was experiencing had nothing to do with what faith I was.

Energy is very simple, as I have now come to know that it can be felt by everyone. The whole key is to understand how it works as we go about our daily activities with each other giving and taking it without realizing what we are doing. You see, it is how we are created which comes naturally in the way we interact with each other.

We are preprogrammed so to speak, the only difference is if we were programed to interact in a healthy way or not. A lot has to do in with our emotional environment as we were growing up. Yes, emotions are pure energy. Nothing like having a reaction to someone or something to get the heart racing and the blood pumping both in a positive or a negative way.

What people don't see is very real. Again, this has nothing to do with your religious background but has everything to do with being human. So there we are exchanging our emotional energy with each other without taking the energy exchange course 101.

No wonder so many of us wonder what in the world happened with some of our relationships. Think about this..... a person who is very angry is demanding attention and unconsciously taking energy form someone else. They are intimidating, draining and stealing energy form the other person to make themselves feel OK or stronger. On the other side when you have an argument the loser will often feel defeated, drained or hurt in the emotional battle.

Have you ever met someone with the "poor me" attitude? And I don't mean someone who is really down on their luck but someone who milks life to get your attention. When you meet someone like this, as a compassionate person you may feel like you want to help them. In which you find yourself giving energy and parts of yourself trying to make things right for them. They are happy and fulfilled and you leave feeling used and drained.

What about the person who is not wanting to interact? This personality gains energy form others as they make others seek them out and expend their energy trying to draw them out. When the other person realizes the amount of energy they are spending they might stop, in which case will often bring the person not wanting to interact to refocus on the relationship. And why wouldn't they? As my ex boss used to say," they were getting their well filled."

The intimidater is one that I really don't like to be around. This person uses power and demands in taking another person's energy. You will find that this personality will often be a "wolf in sheep's clothing" and when you least expect it, they come out of their disguise bearing teeth. When you finish dealing with someone of this nature you feel drained and exhausted of trying to keep the energy that they are demanding.

It is important to know that even if you recognize one of these patterns in yourself and have done major work on healing that by being in an environment that has unhealthy boundaries and unhealthy energy, you may revert back to your old habits out of the need for survival. This is a "red flag" going off telling you to get out of the unhealthy environment and work on yourself so that you don't begin to drain others.

One more thing I would like to mention is that the opposite of taking energy is giving it. Love is a big one in offering a beautiful exchange of energy and giving positive emotional support to someone. Love is healing which can change lives and relationships around you.

The only difference is that it is up to you to know when it is time to move out of an unhealthy situation or hold on. Just know that you are not crazy when you feel drained and weak. Know to that when you feel well balanced and full of love that you are in a healthy emotional relationship . The choice is yours. I guess that is why they call it," free will".......

Namaste,
Ana